MMP Ep 347: Fog or Feels?

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Hi friends, welcome to the Modern Mamas podcast.

We are two modern Mamas here to inspire empowerment, self love, deep physical and spiritual nourishment, holistic health, open minds and joy no matter your journey or perspective.

I'm Laura of Radical Roots.

I'm a certified CrossFit trainer, certified nutrition consultant, and Mama to Edie Wilder and Indie Bow.

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I love outdoor adventure, good food, especially sour and mindful movement.

And I'm Jess of Hold the Space Wellness.

I am a Level One CrossFit Trainer, a licensed and certified athletic trainer with the masters in Kinesiology and Mama to Baron Camille.

I love food, trying new things, creating art, and being a perpetual learner.

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Thanks for joining us.

We're so happy you're here.

Hello modern Mamas.

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Are we British today?

But just a hot minute.

Just one hot minute, OK.

Hello and.

And now we can.

Now we can.

I'm reading the Wildwood series and there is a gal in there.

I'm probably in a bunch of this.

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I think she's Russian.

Nope, somewhere else in Eastern Europe.

Anyways, I try and do her accent.

Her name is Desdemona and I it like shifts all over the place.

I end up being like, just from every content you can imagine.

I'm not good at it.

And I try to emulate Rusty because he is so good at different voices and he reads Harry Potter.

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And I feel ashamed of myself, but I'm trying.

That's all I can do, right?

It's a metaphor for life.

It is a metaphor for life.

I also, I'm not that great at accents either.

But you know who in my family like, I don't know.

They're just so good at is bear.

Like, I'm pretty sure it's like that's a it's a gene, or it's innate and not learned.

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And he's like Ma, he's like Ma, he calls me Ma.

He's like, you got to do it in like he does Australian really well.

And because they watch Bluey a lot too, as do we.

But like, he's like, it's in the back of your throat.

Like you got to talk back then I'm like, I can't do that.

It just sounds like so.

Evie is like has a gift for rolling her ours.

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She can roll and roll and roll and roll for like seconds and minutes on end and I can't do it.

You want to hear mine.

Everyone prepare yourself.

This is going to be jarring.

Do it.

What?

That's not me rolling my Rs.

That's me attempting to.

I don't know how to do it.

I can't do it.

And she tries to give me lessons.

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She's like, mom, just do this.

I'm like, listen, I don't have that skill.

I just can't roll my R oh.

Man, she's.

So good at it.

I can't whistle.

I can't roll my Rs, I can't use accents, but I can write a good post.

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I do have a way with words I feel like I.

Do you are?

My feelings and stories and thoughts through Word You're.

Great at that.

I have told you numerous times, I'm so glad that you like, respond to most of our emails and like, you know, I don't know, you're just really good at it.

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So we can't reach that.

If you are good at everything, you would just be too.

And I feel like we couldn't start this episode with a bunch of self deprecation.

So I'm going to follow it up with like some things that I suck at and I'm OK acknowledging that.

And then some something that I'm good at.

You're really good at it, I.

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I can use words well most of the time when as long as I don't use like every other.

So God, I'm still working on that.

I'm OK with words.

I loved English growing up and writing papers.

Yeah, Miss Valedictorian.

I mean I had to have at least a technical understanding of writing.

But I am I I I mean it's just it it definitely, you know what I'm really bad AT and I just do not care about.

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And I feel like you probably potentially could get not maybe not annoyed but like I'm just like grammar is not my thing and punctuation don't care.

Like, I just yeah that.

About me.

I'm just like I will go back and look at a post and be like, oh man, period or I the word is misspelled like.

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The wrong it's the.

Wrong. 10.

Or I'd use the wrong your, even though it's like I know what your your, you know all of that, the contraction and the alternate spellings.

It's like, it's just, I don't care enough to actually like, try that hard, you know?

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That's fair.

So that's fair.

And I don't judge anybody because I know that I I actually had to when I was teaching high school English.

Especially the AP kids.

You know, I held them to this standard that was probably, you know, I'm coming out of like fresh out of college and taken their teaching credential.

And I had to like realign my brain to really focus significantly more on content than than grammar stuff.

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Because I would just start to get really annoyed.

And then it would jade my perspective of the actual like points that they were making, which were lovely, you know, for these like 131415 year olds to be making such incredible having all these insights into these really cool works of fiction.

So I don't care.

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I I just like my shit to look right.

And now a huge part of my job for CrossFit.

I spend so much time copy editing, so much time and like changing full sentence structure sometimes and like going through and just making things.

And now the, you know, my goal is always to keep things concise because we're looking at content that's being read by trainers who are then going to then implement the session plans into their classes.

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They don't.

They can't.

They don't have time to read novels, you know, But very much in the season of of brevity but also parity at the same time.

I love that I feel like not everyone has that gift.

So you are.

Passive like passive sentences.

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So you.

Don't like passive sentences?

Is that what you just said?

Yeah.

So I'm trying to think of an example here.

Give me a moment to think of now my brain is all over.

I'm trying to.

I'm like, I have just the word kettlebell in my brain.

But yeah, so like when something is done to something versus like I swing the kettlebell versus the kettlebell was swung.

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Does that make sense?

Yes.

I just, I'd like let's just say what we're doing and do the thing not what was.

And I feel like that's a metaphor for life in the way that I realized not don't be the don't be the kettlebell in your own life.

Like take that, you be the athlete.

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OK, so is that like I swing the kettlebell feels yes, it's active.

I am currently doing it.

I feel like the kettlebell was swung.

Oh, you'd say I I swing, I moved the kettlebell, I lifted the barbell versus the barbell was lifted.

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Does that make sense?

So whether no matter the 10s, whether it's present, past feature got it, there's still something is happening to the kettlebell or the barbell or whatever, or I'm the one doing the action.

Yes, OK.

I see.

And also like go lift that kettlebell versus you know I I just, I prefer it and it's also for the brevity's sake a little bit more clear.

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I don't know how we understand.

It was lifted.

It could be.

It's like, how is it lifted?

Who was lifting it?

Like, did it just rise up into the air?

Yeah.

Like, can you tell I did some copywriting this morning?

Yeah.

I mean, we all have the things that we're passionate about.

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Oh man.

And this morning it was, you know, it was a bit of a cluster, I'll be honest.

Tell us about it.

Let's just jump in.

You've been on the receiving end of the cluster FS that have been my mornings this week.

My wonderful, magical 2 year old has decided to wake up before 6, which those of you have been listening for a while.

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You know that my mornings are so sacred to me.

I am up at 4:00.

I have, I get on.

I turn on Balmoria on Pandora, which if you haven't listened to that station, go look it up and put it on and you will just immediately take a deep breath and feel more at ease.

So I turn on Balmoria and then I lay out my blanket.

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I don't have a yoga mat.

I do my flows on a blanket on the floor and I then I unload the dishwasher and then I pack school lunches and I will like love on Willow in some capacity, whether I'm starting a loaf or feeding her whatever.

And then I will start my coffee process and then I get to my computer.

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I've got this wonderful standing desk set up that I'm looking at right now.

If you're looking for one, this company, this whole thing that I have set up, I just it's my favorite of any standing desk that I've had.

But it's called sleek form.

I have a link, OK?

And so then I get to my standing desk and I've got my coffee and I I've lit a candle often times I have my essential oil diffuser going and I go to take my first sip and it's like Mama and I swear like my whole system goes into like hyper anxiety mode.

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So it's like I eat at that time.

And that's happened now a few days in a row and the past two days in a row.

She's also done the same thing at NAP.

So God willing this is a like a leap or a brief regression.

Like I told text the rest of this morning and I was like, I am not OK and then I came back 5 minutes later I'm like let me just clarify, I'm OK, but I'm not OK with this.

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So I'm sure it'll pass and if not I'll have to just reassess because my 2 hours in the morning are pretty sacred as far as like work goes and mental health goes.

And so we will see what happens.

But this morning I, you know, I she is 2 now and so we can have a conversation around, hey, it doesn't work if I'm like you need to go back to sleep because I need to work like.

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But if I say, hey, what do you want to do?

Because I have to look at my computer and I'm going to get some work done this morning.

She'll typically, well, I sent you a video yesterday, but she'll push up her tower to the table and she says I want to draw, and so then she'll just color while I work, And that's worked pretty well, but it's still just energetically like it.

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Not the same, yeah, yeah.

So we'll see what happens.

And on top of that, Rusty, you know, he works four 10s.

He's gone early in the morning before the girls are up most times.

And he three weekends in a row also has CrossFit seminars.

So last week, you know, four 10s straight into Friday morning, gone until about 11:00 PM Sunday night, and then up and back to work on Monday morning at 6:30.

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He's worked four 10s.

He leaves again today for a seminar.

He'll work four 10s, leave again next Friday for a seminar.

So I'm like right in the center of that too.

I have a sticky bun pop up tomorrow and a sourdough workshop on Tuesday.

And so there's just a lot going on.

But I feel like this is a kind of reiteration of something we talked about back when life was really hard over the summer and appendectomies and all of that, like the power of asking for help.

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Evie has a birthday party tomorrow morning Saturday, and I it's 30 minutes away in the town next to us.

Adore the family, Love the mom.

She's a good friend.

But also I have sticky bun pop up and I have a 2 year old that absolutely needs to nap.

And so for both of our stakes and so knock on wood, hopefully she does it.

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So anyways, there's a friend of ours that lives near me.

And so I just text her, I'm like, hey, is there any way Evie could ride with you?

You know, what's the worst thing that happened?

She'd say, hey don't have, so we're not going or whatever.

And she's like, absolutely.

So she's gonna come pick her up from the sticky one, pop up, drive her there, bring her home, and that that gives me the middle of the day tomorrow to decompress.

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And I told Rusty this morning, I'm committing to, like, falling asleep, hopefully with Indy and taking a little snooze.

And I think me committing to sleeping next to her will help her nap because the past two days of naps have been pretty rocky as well, so.

She's got to be going through something, I mean.

So she has a cough too.

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She's starting a little bit of a cough.

And you know, when they're little, they have a hard time getting it out.

Yeah.

And also she coughs and it wakes her up and she gets pissed and then she has a hard time settling back in.

So she's really tired.

She told me this morning.

She looks at me and she goes, I'm tired.

Like, yes, I I can see that in your eyes.

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Guess what?

Me too.

So I feel like if I'm just late with her, she's more likely to go back to sleep.

If I just because she, I think I've said this before as well.

She really picks up on my energy more than I think even Eva did.

Eva did too, but in a different way, because Andy and I are pretty similar in our in our energies, and so she knows if I'm willing her to sleep so I can go take care of something and then usually takes.

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So that's.

Where we're at right now and on top of all that, I cannot imagine still being like being because this, the this, these couple weeks have been pretty intense with, you know, really transitioning into the cross at work and Rusty being gone so much and the girls being sick and a lot mentally on my plate.

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I'm also in like full swing of planning for spring as I do and trips and stuff.

I can't imagine also being on social media.

I think it this would be so hard.

Well, hello there my friends.

Jess here, just popping in to do a Wellness check on you.

How are you feeling?

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Stay Vibra friends, do you want to like, tell us how that's going?

Great, because last episode, had you already done it or were you?

Going about to do it.

I was a few days in and I was fired up OK about it and like I was still.

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Fired up.

Yeah, I was a little inflammatory last week perhaps and I've had some time to come down off the the soapbox of get everyone should be off social media.

But at the same time, I still believe that to my core are.

You did you get any feed off of it or did you?

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Are you just feeling like you were you win a?

Little bit, OK, got it.

Yeah, got it.

And I stand by everything I said.

I just don't feel as intense about it.

It's got it.

Honestly for the first few days off of it.

The first five days I would say it was it consumed my thoughts in a different way.

You know, versus like considering my thoughts of hey, what am I going to post say I've got to create content.

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I've got to get on there.

I've got to answer DMS.

I've got to do all this stuff to.

Now it's more so then it can see my thoughts to like, Oh my gosh, I'm free.

You know this is the best thing ever.

It felt very profound and not at the same time.

I'm talking through a lot of it with my friend Nicole who similarly a few weeks ahead of me took a break and we use the platform in different ways.

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But it still has been pretty profound for each of us.

But I also feel much more comfortable with a comeback and how I'm going to approach that.

For instance yesterday.

So my plan is to create content on my computer and then send e-mail it to myself or whatever and then hop on, download the app, get it on there like share it, share it in my stories with maybe a few updates to follow and then delete the app.

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And I did that on Thursday.

I did a quick check in.

First of all, just thanking everyone who's still because, you know, I get into my DMS and people have been sharing sourdough stuff, but I don't have access to it anymore because it's while I was gone.

And I'm really grateful, you know, for people who are still making my stuff and sharing it and their stories that it goes a long way.

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Every time someone does that, I like traffic to my Etsy shop goes up.

I end up with more things in people's carts.

I end up with orders, you know, and so it means a lot.

It's free and it and it it not only does it mean a lot in that it drives traffic to the stuff that I'm creating and selling but it also means a lot in that.

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Like the reason I started the whole sourdough sisterhood was to share my love of baking sourdough with with the community and people that I care about.

And and then it's reached far and wide and to see people sharing and making in their kitchen still, even when I'm taking a break from sharing, not making just sharing.

It just it feels like.

So just to thank you and then also just a couple of announcements.

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You know I've got a sticky bun pop up in a workshop.

I've sold out of two workshops all the way through March and I have one more in May and then I'm going to take a break through summer until fall.

But I've already sold a third of those out in May.

So that's my gosh.

Yeah.

So it just it's good and I plan on doing similarly probably like twice a week.

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I already have some ideas on like I I already created a post about sourdough I've been baking with pretty exclusively sprouted and or ancient grains.

So we have a local farm here that grows really high quality ancient grains organic etcetera more like regenerative.

I've been getting their flour and they I go into the shop, my friend Ginger, she mills it right like or grinds it right in front of you.

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So she takes the like wheat and right there in her shop she's got a a grinder thing so it's so fresh.

And then I have been using Bluebird grain farms, iron corn and that you know we're eating so much bread in the eye.

This is not in any way to say that white flour is bad, especially when it's been fermented etcetera.

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But I just, I'm having fun.

You know I've been doing this for a while now and it's really fun to play around with different types of flowers.

So to have a loaf there like all iron, corn and all these different beautiful shades of textures and flavors from the different types of flour, it's been really cool.

So I've got, I have a post geared up to share about that and then I'm going to do maybe like when I first pop back in just like a a re intro kind of real like here's some things to know about me and then I'll pop in stories.

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You know, I've, I've been opening packages while I've been away and taking a picture, a quick video.

And so I just want to make sure that I'm still sharing the products that we love because people are grateful for that and the affiliate links are good for our family, you know, and I love to share companies that are doing things really well.

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So I don't plan to stop, but I don't plan to keep the app on my phone either.

Have you tried like a like one of the Because I used to do later and I don't know if how you feel about this, but like instead like it connects to your obviously your Instagram and then you can schedule posts and stories without ever actually having to get on the app.

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I got on there and I checked it out.

It's hard to share like it's I couldn't quite figure out how to share a story or a post from your feed into stories.

And honestly, it's a probably control thing for me, but I want to be the one to hit go like to hit share versus have something like the the ether's post for me.

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I just, I I don't want to disconnect from the community so much.

So I want to be there.

I want to be the one that has the idea, writes the content on my computer, maybe makes the content in Canva or whatever, and then emailed it to myself.

And I want to get on there and post and like have it be my fingers and then pop into stories and post the things that's comfortable for me.

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I don't also don't really have the bandwidth to learn something new later felt overwhelming to me.

And also Rusty and I are in very much a season of getting rid of all of the subscriptions to all of the things.

We just canceled Prime and we're going to try to not use Amazon.

We just canceled because they just had a new thing that they're doing that they're just, it's thievery where they're you have to pay an extra 3 bucks a month or something if you don't want commercials for like Prime Video or whatnot.

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Like this is stop it, you guys.

You make all the money in the world.

You put everyone else out of business.

Stop it.

So I and I you know I'm going to miss the convenience of it.

Of getting something have it not be exactly what I want and just returning it without packaging.

But I don't.

I don't need that.

I can do harder things.

So canceled that.

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I canceled my zoom account.

My pro like things like that.

Teachable I've shifted gears for.

I was doing we transfer to share when people purchased my video tutorial which so I know I haven't shared this anywhere else, but I totally like revamped it.

It's still the original videos from when EB was like 2 1/2 three but I reworked it.

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I've added now a bonus cold bake video.

So how I do cold bake And then there was a missing piece so I had to message every single person who'd bought it.

I didn't realize like one section of it was actually missing.

So if you're curious, it's only 12 bucks and it's every step of the process that for baking sourdough.

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Plus bonus on how to cold bake, which I do in the summer where I don't even Preheat the oven.

So anyways, that's there in my Etsy shop and I don't know how I got there.

Oh, I was using We Transfer and now I've just made all the videos on an unlisted channel on YouTube.

And it might be risky, people can just share the links if they want.

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But I also trust this community, so just trying to declutter.

I've also been in some of my spare time when I'm not on social but I pick up my phone, I've kind of set an attention to delete like superfluous photos and videos to open up storage.

And so I did a free trial of There's this app which is actually pretty cool.

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It's called Cleaner Guru.

It's expensive if you actually go past the free trial, but it goes in and it will take every single duplicate photo or even like super similar photos and it cleans it up.

It'll choose kind of the best one and then you can just delete them all and it's been very cathartic.

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So that's, yeah.

So cleaning out my photo library.

Cleaning out our.

This is on your phone?

Yeah, highly recommend it.

Cleaner guru, not affiliated, not planning to spend any give them any of my money, but a free week.

Really cool.

I feel like it's just good to like, yeah, to like, reset.

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Because I mean, I'm like, I don't even know if I pulled up my phone right now.

I'm not even sure how many.

Probably photos, videos, I mean, oh God, I don't even want to know.

But yeah, that's.

Cool.

And it deletes them from everything.

So that's pretty sweet.

I mean I was I had an absurd amount and it's significantly reduced now.

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So that is those are some things the social media I I feel good about it.

It doesn't feel as like pressing on my mind.

I am just leaning into the freedom of not documenting so much.

For the past six years I've been documenting a lot of our life, you know, and the fact that I am not doing that anymore, and I want to say I don't have to, but I never had to.

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I chose to and it just wasn't feeling right anymore.

And I told Rusty this week too.

I'm just really valuing our privacy in that more of the intimacies of our day-to-day and our adventures that we're taking.

And I will.

My plan is, so we're going to California in a couple weeks.

My plan is to be there, be wholly present, enjoy it, take some pictures and videos and whatnot and then do like a recap after.

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But not sharing so much in the moment while we're on the road and I'm just want to be more present.

And I'm finding that for sure.

I think if anyone is seeking presents, if that's your intention for this year and one thing you can do is get off social media because it's just it.

It makes presents impossible.

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Whether you are consistently a poster or you're consistently sharing or you're consistently scrolling and consuming to go to pop in and out of.

You know, life with your kids or your your whatever you're doing, even if you made this beautiful meal and you're pop on there and like take a picture, it's still just like this.

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I don't know, even if you don't.

So I'll pick up my phone just to take pictures of my beautiful food or whatever.

And I'd still just a a step that kind of just jars into that moment and jars into dinner where I'm like, OK everyone, I'll be right there.

I'm going to take a quick picture of my food before I come sit down on occasion.

Fine, you know, But less of that just feels so good.

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So if you're missing my food picks, go to my website and browse my hundreds of recipes and you'll see plenty of food.

Get your food pick, yeah.

There's lots of recipes I've created so much.

And also what's been fun is I have in this time, it's like I'm not creating.

23:01

I've made some different blog posts that I plan on sharing.

You know, I get asked let's talk about my favorite barefoot shoes and whatnot.

So I had the space to get on, probably took me less time than it would have to write up A to make a reel or write up an Instagram post.

And I just put here's why we choose barefoot shoes.

And here are my favorite ones.

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And now it lives there.

I put it in my Instagram link, bio link, but I haven't shared anywhere because I'm not on there right now.

You know, little things like that that are going to continue to make my life easier.

Because when someone asks, hey, what are your favorite barefoot shoes, they're like, what are your favorite brands of jeans?

And now I've made these posts on my site and I can direct people there.

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Yeah, it was there forever and you own it.

And I own it, Yeah.

I put out so much free stuff and I just don't trust social media to make that always accessible.

I don't know, you're the work in.

It's like you don't technically.

Own that content on Instagram, which you, you know, you pour your heart and soul into, and it's, it could go away in an instant, you know, That's where a lot of like bloggers that I know or like people who kind of built brands on social media are really pouring a lot of.

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It's honestly why I'm getting a lot of work because people are like, I need to grow my my actual blog.

Like I need to like make this where everything lives.

And so a lot of people are like really doing that.

So that's good.

Yeah, if that's good.

I'm excited for just life right now.

24:21

It feels good.

It's I've had some like frenetic, frantic kind of moments this week.

And I think it's just actually, I was telling you before we hopped on, I've had some like foggy brain and I did some muscle testing with my chiropractor yesterday and I think there's maybe some foods that I've been over consuming, like that pasteurized dairy.

I've been having so much cottage cheese and also a lot of tomato sauces and stuff and those came up pretty glaring and I've been adding a ton of carbs earlier in the day.

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I've been playing around with like making these cottage cheese bowls but like adding a bunch of granola and a bunch of apple and honey and all of that.

And I just I I circle back to and my body does not thrive with a bunch of carbohydrate in the morning period you know and say what you want.

Women need carbs in the morning.

25:02

Whatever it is, my body doesn't like it especially the Super high fructose stuff.

So he was like you need to cut back on the honey and on probably like apples are have higher fructose than any other fruit and I've been eating so much apple.

So I'm going to play around with that for a little bit and see if it helps.

But I also think it's stressed, you know, and it's a different kind of stress I there's I'm in a big transition.

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I've worked really hard to build a business.

I'm not letting it go, but I've moved into this.

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But it is a shift and I think I've pushed away the like processing of the the transition and transitions are hard, you know, they're they just at least they need to be acknowledged.

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And I mean it's this is something that you've built and I think it's always been something that, I mean from when you were traveling with the van and it's something that's taking care of your family and you're stepping into a different role.

27:36

And not again like you said, not that you're letting that go, but it's like also trusting that like this, the new things that you're doing are going to not not replace but take that like burden maybe of care, like taking care of your family.

27:55

And you know Rusty's got stable work that he loves and you're you've got stable work that you love.

And it's like trusting that like this is going to because it's almost like and I've kind of been there, you know with like beauty counter and like being so heavily like with the blog and like content creation and all that.

28:12

Transitioning to like a completely different role with the food photography like went through something very similar, just like kind of stress even though it was good, it was like, but this is what I like.

This is what I've done.

And this is like I it's almost control and like I don't know.

28:29

It's just.

I don't know.

Would you agree?

I think a lot of us would who are building businesses and are self-employed and have created so much content and shared so much of our lives like we we have shared so much of the deep and the and this will be a place where I keep doing that but I'm not I'm not going to do that on social media anymore.

28:46

I'm.

I'll have a post down then of like maybe some reflections on mindful motherhood or what I'm experiencing with my girls if they're OK with it, you know.

But we shared so much of like our deep feelings and processes through what is it would have been a pretty intense past four years, you know and we've been vulnerable And so there's a weird and this is all actually very off the cuff.

29:08

I'm kind of having this realization right now that we there it is.

It's a weird transition to sort of let go of that And I'm grateful for the podcast, so deeply grateful and for the my newsletter because I still have space, because I don't want to stop sharing and this has been so cathartic and I enjoy it, but I don't need to share so much everywhere, you know.

29:27

So I think there is a letting go that I'm finally it was like I was passionate about all the benefits and the more how much more time I had and so much more presence.

And now it's like, whoa, OK, there's a little bit of whiplash, like I am committing intentionally so and gratefully so to share a lot less in that space.

29:45

And with that comes a mixed bag of emotions, like with every all parts of life, you know, Oh, that felt good to say and acknowledge.

It's amazing how much I find myself talking about it because it's it's, it might seem trivial to a lot of folks who are like, yeah, whatever.

30:01

I can give it social media for a month, but it social media has become, this is kind of where I was going to, to circle back.

It's a big part of my identity.

Yeah.

And your livelihood, I mean, it's like, yeah, yeah, it's it's huge.

It's not just like, oh, I consume social media for fun like most Americans are not.

30:19

Influencers.

Yeah, content creators, influencers, yeah, stuff like that.

So, yeah.

And I.

Can't imagine being on someone like I think of like Paleo OMG, like Julie Bauer and like that many exciting.

I mean, I've got a, what, 16717 thousand or something and who knows how many of those are just lots, because then social media is a mess.

30:40

But or like, I don't know.

Anyways, it's still like, I think about 17,000 people.

It's a lot of people.

And then you think about these folks who have like hundreds of thousands in it just blows my mind.

I couldn't.

I wouldn't want it.

I wouldn't want it.

I'm.

I'm good.

I don't need to grow up my social media anymore.

30:57

Unless you're listening and you're like, huh, I'd actually never followed you.

I'm going to be putting some cool content out, I promise.

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But yeah, I it feels it's a huge release, but I think with big releases, I think about, you know our episodes with Eliza Parker and I'm when we hold space for our kids to have giant releases, it is great and it is hard and I'm kind of, I think I'm in the midst of that.

31:25

And then on top of it, I been solo.

I'm having flashes this summer.

You know, it's like I've been solo and then I was talking to my friend about this as well, solo, but it's winter and so.

So you're not.

Yeah, very different.

And that can't just be outside until bedtime, you know.

31:42

I mean it could, we've done it a few times, look at the fire, but we all get burnt on it.

It's cold and I don't want to be out in it.

So and then you know, so I'm looking forward to summer already, but I'm trying not to be in that headspace.

And I've also one more epiphany and then I want to hear what's going on in your world.

But over the weekend, you know, Rusty was gone and we had a lot of downtime.

32:01

It was just me and the girls most of the weekend.

We had some friends over Saturday evening.

We did tacos and I made a big old pulled pork.

It was so yummy big old pulled pork shoulder.

And and then suddenly we had zero plans, which I don't typically do well with.

But I had this moment where we were all kind of just hanging out in the house and the girls were pretty content.

32:19

And I'm like, I'm gonna grab my book.

And so I grabbed my book and I laid on the couch and I was just started reading and they both kind of made their way over and we're kind of like, what are we gonna do?

And I'm like, I am gonna sit here and read my book.

You two are welcome to do whatever you'd like.

We are not putting a screen on figure it out And I said this in such a kind way and they did and I realized in that moment that and this might for some of you'd be like come on obviously.

32:44

But I we games are also mine.

Yeah.

Also my time to take down time and I have not felt that in a very long time to be honest.

You know it's always like I'm a doer and a goer and A and a beer and I catch EB kind of being like what are we going to do now or what what should I do?

33:00

What should I draw how should I?

And I'm like, you know what?

It is very good for you to navigate that and to be bored for a minute and then work through that boredom and find, you know, it's good for the the development of your brain.

So I lay there and I read.

And no, they didn't.

They didn't.

33:15

If I had been like, I'm gonna be on my phone here for a minute, just that wouldn't have gone well.

But they see me reading a book and then lo and behold, they navigate.

I forget exactly what they ended up doing.

And then that evening talk about modeling, right.

And it didn't really occur to me until, honestly, right now.

33:31

But that evening, same day, it was Sunday, I we did bath and all that.

They're in their jammies.

I walk into the kitchen and I think to start my tea and I come back out ready to get them into my bed so we can all pile in and read.

And they're in the bedroom, their bedroom right now, it's like happy Andy's, she's, she's got one foot in each room and they're just looking through books.

33:52

And Andy's getting there like babbling, like she's turning, you know?

And I was like, OK, so I went to my room and I grabbed my book and I lay there and I I read for a solid 45 minute.

And then they came in and then we read Wildwood.

And then everyone went to bed.

And I was like, I think that happened.

34:09

They went into their room and just started looking through books because they watched me do it earlier in the day.

And then for me, I was like, Oh my gosh, I'm actually just kind of realizing that connection, you know, more of that.

Let's come on my phone.

And, you know, every once in a while now Eve will be like, Mama, take a picture.

And at first I was like, no, I don't want to have my phone out.

And then I'm like, listen, if she wants me to take a picture or something, I'm going to do that for her.

34:27

Because now we've had years of me being like, hey, I'm going to take a picture, you know?

So I'm kind of letting her dictate what I take pictures of these days.

So I have a picture on my phone right now of Evie standing there with a full, like, Mandarin cutie orange in her mouth.

And Indy has the sticker from the cutie on the middle of her forehead.

34:46

Picture of, you know, stuff like that.

You know what you should do.

I I hate shooting, but this would be so cool if she's like still in the pictures maybe get her like a Polaroid and like so in that that's like special special film.

Right.

Like and anytime and now is she's like take a picture of me be like let's get the Polaroid.

35:05

And so you can actually have, like, real copies.

You'd have to decide, is this like a special moment like is you feel really strongly about?

And then you can like, you know, give her a little, get her a little, like, cork board for her room and she could like birthday pictures of, Oh my gosh.

I love that.

35:20

So much.

So actually I I bought her one for Christmas and I returned it before Christmas like had a moment we had I had over Gifted I feel like for what we like to do and I also had this moment.

I'm like Indy isn't old enough yet to understand.

Like, this is her sisters.

And I think, and I think it would have caused more problems.

35:39

And so I'm trying to read them.

But I do think, and I think Evie is almost there.

And so we kind of reassessed.

I ended up returning it before Christmas and I'm going to do it.

I think we'll do that.

That's brilliant.

Like, I'm glad you re brought that up.

So right now I'm looking, we have all of our Christmas holiday cards still out because I like keeping them up like until through February, really.

35:56

And so I've got twine and then I bought these tiny little like clothes pins and so I could picture them being like hung in our all these like, fun pictures.

But I love that the intentionality of do you actually want a picture of this because, you know, you only have so much film?

Oh, I love it.

36:13

I love it so much.

And I think it's her.

It's.

Her bedroom, a little bit.

It's very clutter.

I keep that door closed so I'm like, OK, there needs to be space for this cork board and and that kind of thing.

And she she says it probably every other week.

I I just I want to purge my room like.

Cold War she doesn't like Cammy.

36:29

Cammy's all constantly being like.

I want to give away like my clothes and my stuffies and like very into like designing her room.

Did I tell you Sorry not to like change the subject?

I'm happy to transition.

I want to hear all about your things.

36:44

I feel like I've talked a long time.

Well, I mean, the thing that I was just going to say is that Cammy for the first time and they still share a room and it's, Oh my God, it's the definition of clutter because it's two humans with in a tiny, tiny, tiny room.

But she was like, so she had this money saved up and she was like, I want to she wanted to go to Target with Meek for one day.

37:05

And she's like, can I bring my money in case I see something a toy.

And I was like, sure, her money.

I'm not going to tell her how to spend it.

And anyways while we're at Target, she's like, I really want to get like she likes to like draw pictures of like her dream room like she's at that age.

I think like, I don't know.

37:20

I did that when I was a kid.

Like I can't remember what age but for sure did that.

But she was like, I want to get a rug And she got this like and bear's like, really.

It's like this pink shag, fluffy rug and it's right in the middle of their room.

37:37

And then she got this like she is.

So she's like stuffed animal obsessed.

And she got this kind of big hamper, really pretty like hamper thing for all of her stuffies.

And then what else?

Oh, she got a lamp, like a really Pretty Little girl's lamp and she was just the hat, like, so happy.

37:55

So yeah.

Anyways, she just.

She's got her rad new haircut, fashion sense, her now interior decorating sense.

She's, I don't know, she's a big Cammy fan.

She is something else for sure.

I feel like she's an Enneagram for pretty pretty.

38:11

I know she is.

She is getting so it's just bananas.

So anyways, there was something you were talking about gosh, a while back and then I wanted to say something.

I don't know, I was, I was thinking that oh, some of the brain fog stuff.

38:26

Like I'm sure that probably, you know, a lot of that has to do with the food.

Like you'd already kind of dove into.

But I also feel like when I got off social media and even like this past year, just to like kind of, I don't know the overlap of not being on social media as much and then also kind of being focused on like this new transition into food photography.

38:48

I feel like I suffer's not the right word.

I feel like I dealt with a lot of what felt like brain fog, but just I feel like when we're used to being GO.

Go go go.

39:04

Yeah, go, go, go, go.

In that constant cortisol spike of like opening the app and posting and and and watching and when that's kind of taken away, I feel like at least my just getting back to like a baseline.

39:19

What does like a normal just feel like without this input?

It felt like I was almost depressed at times.

And that's not, I've talked.

I think it was talking.

And I'm just now kind of really connecting the dots because I remember sharing multiple times throughout this year that I feel like I was like depressed, you know, dealing with depression and not so much anxiety like I normally have dealt with kind of my whole life.

39:45

It was much more of like a lower feeling or just.

Kind of cloudy and.

Slower, almost sluggish like you described.

And I just feel like potentially there could also be just a link to that, just that transition off of something that's just that that input.

40:03

Very good point.

It's funny because Rusty actually said the other day he's like, maybe you're just foggy because you're having social media withdrawals and probably spot.

I mean, it could be, I don't know, Tim was telling me.

And this is unrelated but kind of similar, similar to like in the term of what?

40:19

Or in the way of like a cortisol or that sort of spike.

But he listens to the Tim Ferriss podcast still.

And I guess Tim has Tim Ferriss, not my Tim has drank coffee like pretty much his whole life.

And he did it.

He's always doing these, like, experiments, like extended experiments.

40:35

And so he went off of coffee for 30 days and he said he just wanted to to know what baseline Tim felt like without constant stimulant.

You know, like stimulus in that way, at least just the coffee.

40:51

And he said it was bananas.

He said it was just like, so he felt so much more calm.

But he described, I think that initial same reaction, like, I just felt sluggish.

I felt like I was just, you know, that foggy like feeling.

And then it just, I guess transitioned and a switch was flipped into more of just like, oh, this is not like foggy, this is not sluggish.

41:14

This is just calm like UN interesting.

You know what's so funny?

I told my friend Nicole I was like, I take a CBDCBG with a tiny bit of THC tincture pretty much every morning.

And I told her that I thought that maybe I'd take a little like half a dropper and I never feel any sort of high.

41:33

And I I remember like the first day I started feeling foggy and this was literally like a day or two after I got off social media.

I was like I think I must have taken a full dropper because that's what it feels like this fog is.

Because right now I would say I feel that a little bit but I I don't I don't know if it doesn't probably doesn't seem to you like I am foggy or slow or and it's maybe that's what it is maybe I'm not foggy maybe I'm just it's like a it's been like I said 6 plus years.

41:58

I was sharing pretty, pretty prevalently on social media when I was pregnant with Evie and like kind of coincided with the podcast and starting beauty counter.

Like all of that seven plus years maybe foggy.

What I would consider to be foggy is actually a level of calm that I have not experienced in seven.

42:17

Years.

I mean, maybe we'll see, right?

Like, maybe it could be a combination of a whole bunch of things too.

I mean, there could be the food stuff too, like you said.

But I don't know, it just seems like too much of a coincidence.

Right.

And Rusty's a very smart, smart dude, so I wouldn't be surprised.

42:32

And yeah.

Something to ponder.

Yeah, because like, my performance hasn't suffered.

Like, I feel like if it was really foggy, it's the kind of brain fog that I had after when I had COVID, like, whatever.

Two years ago, I was like foggy again.

42:49

It was hard for me to function.

And this does not feel that way.

Yeah, not not giving up coffee.

For a moment there she was like, should we give up coffee?

And I was like.

I have found I do a third calf and it's great.

43:05

It's like.

It's a ritual.

It is a ritual rituals.

And I, you know, my second glass or mug.

I've gone back to doing rasa and that's been good.

Not all rasa rasa with a little bit of each of the others.

But I don't.

I don't know.

I think some people absolutely have to give it up.

43:20

They get like if I do when we're travelling, I overdo the coffee every time and I have pastries.

I don't eat protein in the morning and without fail then like late morning, I'm like, Oh my God, I need a meal.

Someone give me some chicken breasts.

But otherwise, my day-to-day, I've got it pretty dialed.

Yeah, I feel like for me it's you, I don't know, copy.

43:40

I have gotten it really delved into like I'm not I for a moment they're like maybe two or three years ago I was doing like 3 cups bull calf, you know, really pushing it.

And now I do for sure One Cup in the morning and for a while there I was like trying not to have it first thing in the morning.

44:00

But I was like, you know what?

It's just it it gets me out of bed in the morning And and this may sound like an addict speaking, but, like, if I look for, I can get up at 6:00 AM when my alarm goes off.

If I know that I'm going to have a warm cup of coffee with my reading or whatever it is with my meditation or my prayer, like, it's just it's not worth putting in it.

44:21

I do.

I put heavy cream and a little bit of Maple syrup on it, OK.

And like, dude, that would serve me I again, it's it's different like blood types, body types.

Like I can't, but I just do a bunch of heavy cream and then a bunch of protein powder and that's and I think I'm going to start adding in more like a scoop of ghee and or coconut butter just to get more fat in early in the morning and see if that helps things along a.

44:44

Little bit be adverse to trying protein powder.

I just don't want it to taste gross, and if it tastes gross, I won't drink that.

The Paleo Valley I do one scoop, a full scoop.

So this is like it sounds like.

So much in a cup of coffee.

44:59

They're small.

You you use them.

They're pretty small cups, but then again are pretty small scoops.

But then again, I drink like the element with like 4 ounces of water I and so I'm having a full 2 cups worth of coffee.

And then I do that one third calf and I weigh it all out in a French press.

45:17

And then I put heavy cream and a full scoop of the chocolate bone broth and a full scoop of the chocolate whey.

And it is.

I like cannot wait for my first step every.

Morning.

I'll try it maybe.

Start with one.

Just start with the whey.

Whey's gonna be a better.

Here's my Nutrition hat certified nutrition consultant.

45:35

The whey, if you can tolerate dairy and most people who can't do don't do well with dairy can still do whey.

Especially the Super high quality stuff because it doesn't have the same all of those same like sugars and proteins that or sugars that like a cup of a cup of milk will have anyways.

It's more of a full spectrum, like it has all the amino acids and like a full, you know, bio, more bioavailable protein.

45:56

So I do always start with whey and then I do bone broth protein.

And I, you know, I've been doing the cottage cheese bowls like every single day all the time because I'm obsessed with them.

They're so good.

But I'm doing a week now of no pasteurized cow's milk and just to see if that helps my brain fog.

That's probably not brain fog, it's just my baseline.

46:13

And so this morning I found some sheep milk yogurt at the store.

That's actually Sheaf's milk yogurt is higher in protein than regular cow's milk.

Not Greek, but regular cow's milk or goat milk yogurt, if you're wondering.

And I think it's delicious and I love of the vanilla whey into that.

And.

46:29

Then I put in instead of doing, you know, all the granola and apple and honey, I put in saunts away vanilla whey.

And then I did some flax and chia and like coconut, shred little coconut that I had.

It's like it all comes in one package that I got at the store and I stir that in.

46:45

And then I did a drizzle of sprouted almond butter and a bunch and a a small handful of sprouted walnuts and it was so good.

Play around that.

And then if you've been here for a long time, you might remember my they were like famous.

They had a moment, my coconut butter like cups that I was making and I did it when I was postpartum with Evie.

47:05

And they they were, it was like a staple and people went crazy about them, which was so fun.

And so I actually bought some coconut butter.

I'm going to revisit those and try making those.

I do.

I'll add protein powder to those.

And you know what else had a moment that I'm revisiting?

Spaghetti squash.

47:22

Love spaghetti squash.

I good.

It is a.

Fan.

I am a fan.

Yes, we had it this week and I I I saw it at the store.

And this is what's telling me too, that I probably need to pull back on the sugar.

Sugar is not bad, honey is not bad, Maple syrup is not bad.

Just we have to read our individual bodies.

And my body is saying right now, like, I smell bone broth.

47:40

And I'm like, oh, my God, give me some of that, you know?

And I looked at the spaghetti squash and I was like, has that been here as long as we've lived here in that same spot in the grocery store?

Because it has.

And I never noticed it.

But all of a sudden I'm like, I need to eat that.

I want it, you know?

And I've been doing lunch yesterday.

It was like, AI cooked up a bunch of, I brought a rotisserie chicken early in the week because easy button.

47:58

And then I cooked up a bunch of cauliflower rice from a frozen bag and added a bunch of, like, garlic salt and and ghee.

And then I put some chicken in there and then I added avocado and then I added a bit of drizzle of also primal kitchens.

Ranch.

48:13

We can't, we're not even I don't do eggs work very well but they're plant based.

One I haven't had in years.

But I tried it again.

They've changed their formula.

It is delicious.

So in case you ever wondered.

And I put that all over the top and then pickled onions and it just like so different from what I've been craving, which has been like cranberry sauce and sweet, you know like these big salads with like oranges and cranberry sauce and like candied walnuts and stuff.

48:36

And now it's and I just, I just want savory and fatty.

And so I'm just listening to that.

I don't know how I got there.

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I love that for you.

I I'm not well, I guess probably because I get a little bit of sweet in my coffee in the morning.

I don't.

I can't do, like, yogurt bowls in the morning or like fruit or even like pink.

50:48

Like I can't do anything remotely sweet in the morning or I feel like I haven't been at least lately.

Like I'm just I mean this morning I we so we played.

So you say can't is because it impacts.

Your no, no, no.

Just because.

Like.

My app, I don't want it like I'm just like just like no, no, no, no, no.

51:06

And so it's interesting because for a while there, like in the last couple weeks since I've been intentionally trying to like increase my protein intake, at the beginning I was like blah, like anything meaty protein like.

I'm just saying that on here.

Yeah, I was like, yuck.

51:22

And so I was trying to, like, literally wake up and eat some ground beef like first thing in the morning.

So I'm starting my own rhythm.

And here's where it all comes back to again.

Like, yes, there are a lot of expert experts out there like saying like, you know everything from A-Z.

And so I've been trying to be this person, like not have coffee in the morning before I eat something and you know, break my fast with like food.

51:46

And for me, I just like, I couldn't do it.

But what I can do is I and I'm going to try the protein thing in my coffee, but I can get up.

I can have my cup of coffee in the morning with my prayer.

And then around 9:30 is when I start to get hungry.

52:01

But then when I'm hungry, I'm like, so to this morning I had literally just, I was like a one chicken salad.

So we had this, I had some like rotisserie chicken leftover, Shredded it all up, put some Greek yogurt and Mayo in there and Dijon like veggies, like just a sprinkling of like cranberries to make it like slightly sweet and ate that with like some crackers and it was.

52:26

Oh my.

God, it was so good.

I am AI could eat chicken salad every single day.

And I know that some people are like, EW, that's disgusting.

But I mean, it was.

Mayo, right?

I've had a little bit of Mayo, but mostly Greek yogurt.

Oh Yum in it.

Try that.

And like, if you didn't want to put any Mayo in, like just the Jean mustard, that like, gives it a little bit of Tang is really good.

52:47

So yeah, it was like, I don't know, it was something crazy like 60 grams of protein.

Yeah, I'm.

Trying to like, really up the protein, yeah.

And for me, I've been trying to front load my meals because I so once I get into work, kind of talking about this yesterday, I'll be a text.

53:03

Like once I start cooking and photographing, like I can't really stop because I'm on a really quick timeline.

If food doesn't keep, I need to be done before the kids get home and like who knows how long recipes are going to take.

So I'm trying to eat like a huge meal in the morning before I get started.

53:20

So that way by like you know, if I didn't I wouldn't eat anything all day and then me trying to play catch up for the rest of the day and then it's just it doesn't work.

So anyways, I had chicken salad today.

Tim and I played pickleball.

I I feel like we're running out of time and I'm like, I haven't even talked about.

53:36

Anything.

I don't even know what we did.

I I consumed this and I'm sorry.

No, I know.

It's been great.

Like, I love episodes like this where it's like, Oh my God, it's 45 minutes later and we're just chit chatting.

I forget that we're actually recording.

We.

OK, so last, OK, we've played pickleball once before this past weekend and this past weekend it was Tim's aunt's birthday and she was like, I want to play pickleball.

53:59

And so we're like, OK, fine.

And we forget that we had a blast last time we played.

It's been a year.

So it was her last birthday that we played and so we played pickleball.

And this time the kids were there.

So last birthday, I think they had spent the night somewhere.

So they had never played pickleball.

54:15

And so the this past weekend, Tim Zant was like, we have these courts, like she was part of this whole group that like actually brought these courts to San Antonio on the East side, which is like it's not the suburbs, it's like inner city pickleball courts.

But they're so nice and beautiful.

54:31

They're like 5 minutes from our house.

So we went and we had the best time.

The kids are super into it, like very competitive.

We all played.

It was so fun And they're all at the ages to where it's like, you know, they're still learning, but like we can actually play together and it's a, it's a four person.

54:50

Well, it's either two or four people anyways.

We had so much fun.

And then I kind of it, kind of.

So I got intense about it.

Of course I did, because it's like we're like all having fun.

And then I'm like, no, I'm going to win.

I'm going to actually kick all your asses.

55:07

The younger kids especially.

So we're playing.

I know we had such a great time, but like I definitely, you know, I've been working out and like rehabbing my back and moving and everything's been really good.

But I haven't been moving like that, you know, like athletically in multiple planes of motion, you know, like twisting and cutting and jumping.

55:26

And so I definitely have felt it like my back this week has been just talking to me, which was a little bit scary because it's kind of how it felt when it first started hurting.

But anyways, Tim was like, you know, I think we should just maybe not as intense because I pretty much beat Tim all last week and I noticed he's like, actually, I never.

55:43

Want to play with you again?

He was like.

Shit, he's like, Oh my God, he's like you athletic.

I'm like I told you I am.

Anyways he was like I think we should like do this weekly and he so we're going to try and do like a Friday morning pickleball date every week.

56:00

So he went there's.

Definitely some pickleball obsession here too.

Yeah, I mean it's it's fun.

It really is fun.

It's light hearted, it's fairly easy on the joints if you aren't a freak like me, competitive freak like me.

And it's just like, it's a great way to just have some fun and move your body and be with your pupil.

56:22

And so he used to, he had like an Academy gift card.

And he's like, I'm going to pick a ball racket and some balls.

And so he did.

And we went this morning, we dropped the kids off.

And I was like, OK, I'm not running around because my back's still feeling wonky.

So we just like kind of practice, like serving and passing.

And I've taken a semester of tennis.

56:40

So it's it's like kind of muscle memory, like just how to to like, control the ball.

But we just had fun.

And then why was I saying that?

Oh, OK back.

Well, it kind of just remind me of why I was so, so hungry after this morning.

Because we played pickleball and then I had that giant bowl of chicken salad.

56:57

But anyways, that's what we're doing.

We're going to start doing pickleball.

And I think the kids, the kids were so upset this morning because we both went to drop them off and and of course, you know, we brought our rackets and they're like, you're going to put it on, this is bullshit.

So we're probably going to do that on our Sundays, on Sabbath.

57:16

We're going to start probably doing a little bit of pickleball.

So, and that's what it was reminding me because you were talking about.

So we're still really, really, it doesn't happen all the time because our weekends have just been so packed.

But we're still doing like our Sunday Sabbath.

And you were saying like about Evie, about telling Evie, like just figure something out, you know, like it's good for your brain to be bored.

57:38

I feel like that is a huge thing that we've seen with our kids because of their regular Sunday like Sabbath that we do or can.

We're like, they know there's no screens, like they can't watch TV, they can't play video games.

And so it's almost like they we haven't, we have yet to have like a fight about like screens or anything like that.

58:00

That's just like they know we're not doing that.

And so usually for the first, like, I don't know, 30 minutes an hour, once we like get back from church or whatever it is that we we had to do that morning, They're like, I don't know what to do.

And I'm like, well, you get the rest of the day.

58:17

It's just like I'm going to be reading because that's what I'm choosing to do.

And they both can read.

Yeah, they both can read and they love to read, but usually they just end up playing together and it usually goes really well.

And it's so good.

It's so good for their brains to not be constantly entertained or even just not even with screens.

58:38

But just like with us doing things, it's like, you know, God.

Yeah, us too as grown-ups.

And even I had a real she wants, she really wants to be homeschooled in the fall.

She's told me that.

And so I'm like, listen, I'm also, I also work and I want to homeschool you.

I'm so excited about it.

58:53

But you are also, I can absolutely dedicate couple hours a day.

We can sit down, do really cool lessons and also you're going to have to find ways to entertain your brain and get creative.

And she can.

If any kid can, it's her.

And I just I really, truly, and I have always deserved the right to change my mind.

59:08

But I really feel like it's going.

She's going to thrive and we have so many cool.

I'll I'm sure we'll talk about this more in the fall.

But anyways, all that to say, yes, it's good for them.

They're not simulated all the time, nor do we.

Which is why full circle.

And then I'm done talking.

For the most part, we can put our phones down and not be on social media so much.

59:25

Oh, I I need to hear that as well.

It's like, I constantly get reminded, even this morning, like on the way to school, I'm sitting in the passenger seat and like, yeah, this is a moment where like, I can talk to the kids, Like we get untripped and untripped to time.

But I found my celebration for for my phone.

59:42

Like, you know, I'll check my e-mail just to see.

Or I'll like pop on to see if anyone's.

Commented on this or.

That I'm just like, I I'm proud of myself for like, actually stopping myself, even if it's like I've already opened the app and I'm about to start scrolling, but I'm like, what am I doing?

59:59

You know, like put your phone down.

Like, literally, you can.

You can.

Not have your phone open for this 15 minute drive to school.

And so it's just kind of process of like, re, I don't know, reforming habits.

1:00:14

It's like breaking habits of just picking up your phone when you're bored or you don't have something to stare at.

So the reason why I like, got rid of Amazon Prime, because I would just find myself in there putting stuff in my cart and like what?

How did I get here?

And it's just I don't want things that are just going to end up filling that space of me reaching for my phone.

1:00:31

And I think I've said it before I you know I I have my phone set to lock after an hour and I'm trying to just up the the.

I don't I don't think I would do well it wouldn't like push me to look at my screen time.

I don't know why.

For me it's way more validating to come back and just have it locked because it's just kind of not like so specific numbers to track.

1:00:48

I don't do my brain doesn't do that but it's more like oh cool it's locked.

That's awesome.

Lock me out.

Phone please lock me out.

Yeah.

So I don't.

I mean, I don't have a whole, you know, buttload of stuff to talk about.

1:01:04

I did wanna welcome.

We have two new Patreon members and I think I remember their names without actually going back to look.

But because one is my friend Megan who moved away.

And she.

I mean, hi Megan.

I love you.

I know you miss me so much that you have to join our Patreon community so you can get more of me.

1:01:21

So Megan is a new.

We are the.

Coolest community, We really do.

Megan's a new patron and I think Lauren is also a new patron.

Hello ladies, welcome.

Welcome to the Mötley Crüe.

Modern Mama's crew.

I wanted to say that before I forgot because I know that's that's that's important to me.

1:01:41

I also want to and this is not a.

And I was like, OK, I'm going to talk about this today on the podcast because I really have noticed this is not an ad, OK?

This is like my full opinion on some products that I've been using that do happen to be partnered.

1:01:57

We happen to be partnering with.

Well, The thing is, we only partner with products that we truly love and use.

So it's like I feel you don't even need to necessarily practice.

With that I just, I didn't let anyone be like, well, I roll, Jess is trying to sell me something but I do, I.

Talked a whole bunch about Paleo Valley Protein today.

But the OK, so I think I had mentioned January 1, we started our partnership with needed.

1:02:20

I had, I have used their products off and on for the last couple years.

But I was like you know what I am dedicating like I'm going to take care of myself this year.

I'm putting myself first And one of those things was just simply like having a dedicated supplement, an easy supplement routine, not like 2500 things but like I'm going to routinely take these number of things and see if I noticed a difference.

1:02:42

So my last period like cycle was way early.

It was really weird.

And this was before I started the regularly doing the needed supplements.

And so January 1 I started the supplements I'm taking from needed two of theirs really regularly.

1:02:59

I'm taking the women's multivitamin, This is not the prenatal one, it's kind of the generic multivitamin.

And then I'm taking the stress support and y'all I Anyways, my period was like literally right on time like to the day.

1:03:17

And that never happens.

Even when I'm not in like a like stressed out period.

It's been like I had almost like no PMS symptoms and y'all I get very distinct patterns of PMS around like my brain and my emotions like it's just it's like clockwork.

1:03:37

And Tim was like, I was like I told him, you know, I started my period today and he's like what?

It's like, I didn't even, you haven't even, you know, all these things that I do, which is usually like, I won't, I won't bore you with the details, but it's just it's an emotional roller coaster about a week before I start my period.

And he's like, wow.

1:03:52

And I was like, I know I feel so.

Good.

I can usually tell on the podcast.

Can you?

Yeah, Yeah.

OK.

Well, so like that's, I usually say.

It, but I can typically pick up on it before you say it.

Yeah, well, it's like.

Based on like mood and and you know the way that the world's I guess kind of.

1:04:11

Affecting me feels yes, yes.

And so I felt so much more even across the board.

So it's it's just bananas it's it's bizarre and even not even just around my period just like feeling like more.

1:04:27

I I don't know if it's the stress specifically that stress product, but it's got like ashwagandha and like all this like really good stuff.

Like, I know it's good for me, but I just feel so much more even.

I feel like it has to be at least in part attributed to some of that and the multivitamin too, just getting kind of filling maybe in some of the gaps that I might have been having with like my kind of erratic eating patterns.

1:04:54

And you know some of that like I'm starting to get a lot more intentional with like actually feeling myself as well.

But I just want to say I I'm going to keep, I'll keep everyone posted, but I do feel like I'm seeing some significant differences in the last 30 days with taking that every day so much to the point where I just ran out and like it's honor.

1:05:13

It's the stress, support and the multivitamins on its way here, like as we.

Speak.

I'm like I need it.

Oh my God, I.

Don't want to go without it because I feel so good.

So that's been really great.

And then also again, not to be like an ad just like total ad spot here but ten the other day was like your teeth look really white and I was like really?

1:05:33

It's like, yeah, I was like I haven't changed anything except the using that I'm using the charcoal whitening toothpaste from Wellness.

And so, honestly, he's never said that before in his entire life.

To me, before I'm.

Using the whitening.

Just mint one, not charcoal.

1:05:48

I started with the charcoal.

It's just too messy for me.

And I noticed a difference in my own teeth as well.

OK, that stuff is making and it makes my teeth feel clean for a very long time, which I love, which is then in turn helped me to not ruin my gums 'cause I brush obsessively and so now I'm only brushing morning and night and then I feel like my teeth just it stays clean did.

1:06:08

You go to the dentist.

No.

Oh, it's done.

OK, I I will.

Now that I have insurance I, I, I try to get I get get this in and they're like cool, we're booking out to February 2025 S fill out your information.

I'm like great.

I'll see you in here.

Oh man, I yeah, I remember you mentioned something off the dentist.

1:06:25

I didn't know if you'd actually been able to make an appointment.

There's nothing glaring like I don't.

There's no pain.

Like, we're all good.

But I feel like it's probably important.

I'm.

I'm obsessive.

Like I floss.

After that, we talked about flossing.

I scrape my tongue.

I I have one of those stainless steel like pics.

So I get rid of a plaque and I eat really well, so I'm not concerned.

1:06:42

But I also feel like it's important to get the girls in.

You know, have some fights about fluoride.

It's going to be great.

Can't wait?

I haven't had any opposition.

Like, no, no fights whatsoever.

It was literally, Do you want a fluoride treatment?

No thank you.

Cool.

Here you go.

Here's your toothbrush.

1:06:59

So maybe there won't be any fights.

Maybe it'll be a very smooth scene.

Yeah, and I'm I'm going somewhere from someone who like a recommendation, so I feel like with my friend who feels similarly.

So I think we'll be good.

But also, you know, I'm just prepared.

I had a really cool conversation with one of our hygienists a couple of times ago because I was telling her like, oh, we don't use fluoride.

1:07:19

And I was asking her about the hydroxy appetite, which the Wellness has, which I I didn't.

They're not like, super.

They don't broadcast it, which I feel like it.

It's not even, I don't even think on the package, but it does have uses my micro hydroxy appetite, which is kind of like a safer alternative to fluoride.

1:07:37

Anyways, I had a conversation with my hygienist.

She was like, yeah, that's great.

Like you can use that instead.

That's perfect, you know.

So I feel like the dental world is probably, you know, maybe informed at this point coming around, yeah, on some of the like alternative options for that, so.

1:07:54

I said such a vivid memory of my great uncle, who is a he's a what's an oral surgeon anyways, Not a dentist, not an orthodontist, whatever the other one is.

And he I remember just looking at me and be like you better be using fluoride like so serious and I was like.

1:08:12

Yes, yes, I am OK Anyways, that was all my ad information.

It's.

I hate saying it like that, but I really wanted to share those because I feel like it truly was making a different is making a difference.

I had a couple people ask me, like, is this real or do they work, you know, yadda yadda yadda.

1:08:30

And I wasn't really able to like give feedback earlier because I just started with a lot of that stuff.

So two thumbs up and also obviously Paleo, we've talked about that at length, but.

I'm obsessed.

I know I never.

If you went through a little phase where she was like not into the beef sticks anymore, like you can't, yeah, it's like a good chunk of her protein.

1:08:49

But she's back on board.

So.

Yeah, our kids, I mean, our kids eat them like anytime they're like, I want a snack or they're, you know, I'm just like, you need a meat stick first.

If it's like something that's like, you know, cereal or like a granola where I'm like, yeah, you can have like grab a meat stick too.

1:09:07

And they're like, OK, so they love them.

It's easy protein.

Like, I keep them in my purse all the time.

Purse meat, that's a A friend of mine coined that term, but purse meat all the time.

You love them.

So yeah, I don't know.

I don't know how this turn took this direction, but I'm trying to think.

1:09:23

Is there anything else going on in my world?

It's a testament to the products that we use are genuinely because it's come up multiple times on accident like there we that we genuinely use them on the day-to-day which feels great.

So I'm not you're not going to see them in my stories as much but I'm still using them all the time actually my needed showed up.

I'm looking at the package right now and I'm so excited to try to stress before because I love the multi I use the prenatal through both pregnancies.

1:09:45

Been on a needed on board with needed for a long time and I haven't tried to stress with support so I.

Can't wait to see what you think.

Yeah, after a few weeks.

Yeah, I have to look too cool.

Well, this podcast help with clarity.

I don't feel foggy at all right now, so maybe it was just I needed some cathartic processing.

1:10:01

Yeah, I feel like that's pretty standard for both of us.

Post podcast, we usually feel energized and clearer and.

I like recording with the sun up, so maybe we should reassess.

I mean, yeah, we got to figure that out.

I don't know.

She's.

Going to keep waking up early.

1:10:17

We got to figure something out.

Yeah, we will have a good time.

And thank you to listeners who they're with us and me primarily when in the different seasons of children in the background.

But it's fleeting.

She's just going to get older and you know, neither of us I think will have babies again which is so interesting.

1:10:36

And The Modern Mama's We've been Modern Mama's podcast through Little Baby Phases and Births and Crazy It.

Is bananas but I'm so excited like I don't know I'm excited to share the next both of us are kind of, I mean you're stepping into new phase of motherhood.

1:10:53

I mean we constantly are.

It's obviously ever changing, but you know, we've Tim and I are just, you know, we've got like, I don't know, we've got like a preteen team, yeah.

Which is going to be so cool to navigate that season and still be the modern Mamas.

1:11:08

And we're hearing so many of our listeners have been with us from early on and have kids the same ages.

So it's just cool to be going through this collectively.

There's a lot of power in that, yeah.

Totally.

And I'm happy to be kind of.

I mean, I wish I had more Mamas who were in the same, like, kind of phase as I am.

1:11:23

But I'm also, it's also cool to kind of go through a lot of this stuff ahead of the pack, so to speak, in terms of like our listenership and just, you know, I have people because.

Yeah.

And it was last year, it was like we were talking a lot about like sex talk and you know, all of that because it was coming up a lot for us and our family.

1:11:42

And I have a lot of listeners coming back to ask like, what was the episode that you did with the sex talk, you know, gal and what did y'all do?

And I'm just like, yeah, we this is the episode.

Here's what we've done, you know, So it's kind of also cool to be in a new role as like, no, kind of like the the older mother, you know, the matronly, the grandma passing on, like, you know, our experience and stuff.

1:12:08

So that's been kind of cool too.

Happy to share for those who are coming up behind me in that phase of life.

So, OK, cool, Tim and I are going to go to a Costco date right now.

Are you still there?

Yes, I'm here.

1:12:24

I'm going to go get out of the house where Rusty can come back.

I've just had him, like, floating around the others.

I don't know where he is with Indy.

I'm going to go work for a couple hours and then I come home and say goodbye to him and he's off for another cinema or so.

I told him if he can get Indy down for a nap today, that my whole nervous system will thank him.

1:12:40

Do my Rusty a midday window for this afternoon.

Delight.

So it'll be a win win for everybody.

Awesome.

Get a Rusty.

Report back.

I'm going to pull out the for you for one more ad.

Oh I didn't want to say for real though the for you, the for you stuff is.

1:13:02

I mean I always struggle with sharing about this because I I never want them to feel embarrassed.

But like it's literally, I mean it's just game changing.

Just get you some, just be a grown up get it.

You'll thank me.

I promise.

It's, it's.

Lovely.

Yourself.

1:13:18

It's sex is good.

It's great.

And if you need a little pep talk, go listen to the episode I did with The Founder.

Yes.

Really great.

Yes.

OK, cool.

I think we touched all of our sponsors.

We love you sponsors organically and we love when I'm honestly just on like a real note with that.

1:13:33

It means a lot when you use our links.

It really does and both for like the the ongoing nature of the podcast keeps us afloat here and and also it means you're you trust us, which means a lot and you're nourishing yourselves in so many ways, body, mind and soul.

That's all that sexually.

1:13:50

Sexually, I did not be sexy.

Oh my gosh, it's a wonder.

So sexy.

I don't know.

That's bad.

It's really bad.

Anytime I try to Tim's like just just stop.

Just stop.

Stop.

Dress.

Oh, gosh.

1:14:05

OK, that's enough TMI.

Love you guys.

Talk to you later.

Bye.

I don't know what to say.

Thanks for listening to our podcast.

See you next time.

Thanks for listening to our podcast.

See you next time.

1:14:21

Bye.