MMP Episode 310: L +J Talk: Manifestation

MMP Episode 310: L + J Talk: Manifestation

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Hi, friends. Welcome to the Modern Mamas Podcast. We are two modern mamas here to inspire empowerment, self-love, deep physical, and spiritual nourishment, holistic health, open minds and joy. No matter your journey or perspective. I'm Laura of Radical Roots. I'm a certified CrossFit trainer, certified nutrition consultant, and Mama to Evie Wilder and Indie Bow.

I love outdoor adventure, good food, especially sourdough [00:01:00] and mindful movement. And I'm Jess of Hold The Space Wellness. I'm a level one CrossFit trainer, a licensed and certified athletic trainer with a Masters in Kinesiology. And Mama Taben. Camille, I love food, trying new things, creating art, and being a perpetual learner.

Please note that while we're here to provide advice and insights, we aren't medical practitioners and always recommend that you check with a trusted provider before implementing any changes. Thanks for joining us. We're so happy you're here. Hello and welcome to another episode. Come Hell or High Water.

We are going to record today and we're here and we are the modern Mamas and we're doing this. I feel a sense of peace having you kick the episode off. I feel like that's, I feel like it's just right simplicity. It's just right. We, so full disclosure, technical difficulties for some random reason this morning, we've been doing this for six years and I feel like most of the time it runs fairly smoothly now, but occasionally.

Because we're ancient [00:02:00] dinosaurs and we typically record on Skype. They're, they're just, you know, Skype throws us a curve ball every once in a while, and that was this morning. I feel like that's kind of why we stick with it, because it's, it just keeps things interesting. Why would we want things to run smoothly when we could have, I know, chaos.

What kind of, what kind of dinosaur would you be? Ooh, that's a really good question. I think I'd be, I'm not good with the dinosaur names. I feel like Evie's way better. But what te dactyl, like, I think it'd be really a flying fly. Yeah. Mm-hmm. Then you could like say, you know, fuck the T-Rex. If it comes towards you, you just take off and flying would be cool.

And I mean, I don't, I don't have any, if I were to pick like a modern day animal, it wouldn't be a reptile. But as a dinosaur, you're a dinosaur. You don't really have a choice. So if I had to be a dinosaur, I would fly. Yeah. I don't, boom. I think that's, that's amazing logic. I. Have always loved long necks like bra, so I, I don't, I'm not great at the [00:03:00] names.

Yeah. Little, little foot man, God, us all. Oh God. It was just like that, the people that grew up with that movie in their life. Mm-hmm. Like. I feel, I feel trauma. I'm not happy. Yeah. I feel trauma also, just, I don't know. I feel I, it makes me think about, like, I saw something the other day that was all about like kids getting smartphones early and earlier and how it's impacting their mental health and making them more like violent, et cetera, et cetera.

I'm like, shit, can't we just go back to the time when like we just, our biggest concern was little foot's wellbeing. You know, versus like what we, what kids are now seeing on TikTok, man. I know. I know. A lot's changed in our lifetime. It's wild to think about. It is wild. Yeah. Anyways, now that we're aging ourselves, I'm almost, but I did see this.

Yeah. And I'm about to be 40, but I did see this meme and it was like, I forget exactly how, but it was alluding to the fact that like we had all these movies, like in our youth that were like, Cute and fun. And then like [00:04:00] sh there's like a shocking like underlying like kind of disturbing now that you look back at it.

And I can't even think of a movie off the top of my head, but like, probably teen more teeny. Well, all the princess ones. The princess. Yeah. I mean like now as an adult looking back, you're like, that was holy. Yeah. Now that's weird. Ariel just, you know, gave up her voice. For a man, it's no big deal. She's got this like overbearing fathers.

Uh, did you, okay. Did you watch the originals as a kid and look for like Disney folks are? Oh, absolutely. They hid so many disgusting things in those and, and they weren't even that hidden. Yeah. Oh yeah. I remember there's one. In the Lion King, they're like out on a balcony. Sex or no? Well, so sex was, was in the, the, the like seed wind and then they're out on the balcony.

Yeah. In the Lion King? No, not Lion King. Uh, Aladdin A, he has a, he goes, good kitty. And then it's like tiny, tiny. It says, take off your clothes. Like [00:05:00] that. Yeah. Totally found that one. There's like the giant phallic penis in the castle for a little mermaid on the cover of the original vs. Oh, wow. Don't think I saw the castle.

The castle like tip is literally a penis. Like not, not like, not just like my child kinda looks like a term. I saw that. No, it's a penis. It's, and then the priest in the priest middle are made during the wedding scene. Has a, a boner, right. Has a major boner. Yeah. Yeah, I remember that. That is so wild. That's like something I have not thought about in like literally.

Years. But anyway, all of the messaging too is just, it's like, there's like really horrible mother figures in most of them. I mean, it's just, okay. To be fair, a lot of the like original Disneys are based off like some really effed up like Hans Christian Anderson, like old, like fairy tales. Not all of 'em, but like, I mean, those are like old, old, old stories.

No. Anyways. I feel [00:06:00] like even to nowadays, Disney's controversial. So whatever, we're not like, we're not trying to take away your, your Disney. We just fun thoughts? Fun observations. Fun observations. Food for thought. Anyways. Hello. Anyways, dinosaurs. I, I wanted to dinosaur dinosaurs. Disney, we were talking about dinosaurs that like, I know that like, technically they're like reptilian, but like also, every time I look at chickens, I am like, yeah.

Wow. So prehistoric. Yeah, so prehistoric. Like these are like baby dinosaurs with like feathers. And now I think they think even that like a lot of dinosaurs had like the start of feathers or like some sort of like feathered, like. Is a little bird hybrid. Yeah. Anyways, it's bananas. Excuse any symbols by the way.

Are you sick? Um, I don't know. I think so. I thought, yeah, energy. All that's [00:07:00] fine. Like just a little It it, we've had like big weather shifts here. I feel like that typically happens to me. So got like a little bit of like the sniffle sinus thingie had. At first we thought she was just naughty cuz she's cutting.

Two molars and four canines at once. But now Rusty and I both have it a little bit, so I think maybe it's a cold, but if it is one, it's very mild and ungrateful, but I just feel a little raspy and a little stuffy. You sound great. Oh good. I'll take it. I feel great. Well, good, good, good, good. Yeah, you, you seem light, you seem, I'm sure we'll dive into that.

Before we do though, I do wanna welcome a new Pat Patreon member, Morgan Cochran. Welcome my friend. We are so glad to have you. Thank you for being, wait, I can't wait to meet you. I actually don't think I know you. Do you know, do you know Morgan via the Innerwebs? I believe. Okay. But not like not in person in any capacity.

Okay, so hi Morgan. Hi Morgan. Welcome. [00:08:00] We're excited to have you. Hi. Welcome. Welcome. Yeah, man. So today's like, sort of gonna be topical, quasi topical and mm-hmm. Just regular life catch up cuz I just, I don't, haven't got talk to you very much. I know. And I feel like I have a lot I wanna know. Yeah, let's do it.

Well, I wanna, let's chat about. Well, so like I said, you feel, you sound, you feel, feel sound lighter, I feel like. Is there any like major transitions? Like I know the catch up episode that just went live yesterday. There was still like things were progressing with Rusty and mm-hmm. He's getting better, but y'all were still kind of like uncertain kind of about like fire.

Yeah, and there was uncertainty. There was also like the poll quote in on Instagram was like about guilt and I was processing through a lot, we were helping EV process through a lot. That would be obviously a lifelong thing, not just for this event, but for life in general, but, There's definitely like a certain lightness that we're moving into this week with the weather has been [00:09:00] absolutely incredible.

Like no spring I ever remember here, and this is our fourth spring living here. It, I mean, we're talking like over the weekend it was like 80 degrees, you're at the lake. It was just a dream. And then, and that was for Mother's Day. And then on top of that, rusty is significantly more confident in his ability to pass the fitness test.

And his rehab's been great. He's been back in the gym. On Mother's Day, like one of his gifts to me un unplanned was we went to the lake all day, which means like, it's gotta be a fl a nap kind of flex day. And so he put her, you know, after weeks and I didn't realize what a load it had been on me of like, him not being able to pick up or hold indie for six weeks, basically.

Mm-hmm. I guess it was like, yeah, six if he consider leading up to the surgery and everything, and so, And she likes to be held. And, uh, she's also very active. And so if we're at home, she wants to be held. If we're not at home, she wants to be chased. And that was all on me for weeks. So anyways, on Mother's Day, we went to the lake, we met up with some friends there and.

It was nap time. And he's like, why don't I put her in the carrier? So he put her in the Tula on his front [00:10:00] and he walked for over an hour with load Wow. On our baby. And it felt really good. And so while he did that, I got to, you know, play with Evie in the sand. I got to go out on our friend's paddleboard.

I got to drink a hard kombucha and read my book in the sun. And it was just like, So dreamy. So that bodes well. And then this week he's gonna head to the track and just like work on pacing for the fitness test, which is so in case you're just popping in here, he had been, rusty, had emergency surgery for a ruptured appendix that had been ruptured for five days and kind of went septic and had an a really intense surgery and lost some of his colon and his intestines.

And he's been recovering and so. He was supposed to start fire season on May 1st. All of this happened like the second week of April, so obviously that didn't happen. And we just for a long time have been in this place of like what is gonna happen career wise for him this summer, financially for us. He was, he's a contractor for CrossFit working seminars and his j all of his work is very much physical.

So anyways, so they told him he could push back his start [00:11:00] date and take the fitness test on June 16th at the latest, but there's also a test running June 1st, and as of yesterday, he's even like, he, he. Contacted his boss and went on and was like, Hey, there's a chance I'll be ready June 1st. So they, like paperwork wise, have set him up to start June 1st.

If he, if he's able. And if not, then he'll just take the test on June 16th. But in any case, he's feeling great. So he is gonna go do the, the pack test is three miles under a certain specific time cap with 50 pounds of load on a weight vest. Hello, friends, Laura hair popping in real quick to rave about my current, favorite product from Paleo Valley.

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Terrain. Or is it just like on a tr like smooth flat surface or like it's, the test is on a, just a smooth, flat surface. Okay. Which is nice. And so he. The weird part is though, like you're not allowed to run. So if they see you like picking up your heels too quick, they tell you to slip down. Mm-hmm. But the time is very weird, where you also just can't, you can't just walk.

So it's like, what's a speed walk? I don't even, I can't remember what it has to be under. Okay. But he said it's hard, not because of fitness, but because it's just a weird cadence. So he's gonna go do it this week, I think maybe today [00:13:00] without load, just for pacing. And then next week he'll do it with our weight vest, um, or wearing indie, you know, and then we'll see where he's at.

So he could start as soon as June 1st. And then on top of that, he's got a cross CrossFit seminar this weekend. So he will leave tomorrow and teach a seminar in Tacoma, which is just a couple hours away. And again, like. Last Monday, he wasn't sure as to whether or not he was gonna be able to like be on his feet all day and that kind of stuff.

Mm-hmm. And he's like, Totally feeling great. He's been back in the gym taking classes, but obviously scaling immensely. But it's just, it's amazing to see the leaks and, you know, having him out with us all weekend on Mother's Day weekend. And he's tired at the end of the day, but it's not like, you know, nothing like even a week ago.

So that has been huge. And then, you know, just the weather is huge for my mental health. Ev taking way more, you know, we had talked to some of her, her teachers who were saying things have been a little bit, she's just beening a little different at school. I, I mentioned this last week, I think just like feeling.

She's been like, a little bit more like kind of dazed and, uh, emotional and having tummy aches and stuff. And [00:14:00] I talked to them yesterday and they're like, she seems like entirely herself again. Hmm. So we've really been prioritizing one-on-one time for each of us with her, and then also just like more family time.

Mm-hmm. And it, that's what she needed, you know? And so I'm grateful to be in tune enough with her needs to know that, to know what's going on and to be able to like, hold that space. And so that's been good. And then like my work with CrossFit is, is good. I, I. And I had a season where I was unsure about like, you know, they were doing layoffs and I was feeling a little bit stressed about that kind of thing, and.

And I'm feeling, you know, more integral to my team than ever. And the workflow is good. And yeah, so there's all that. And then also now back to the feelings of like, okay, summer's coming, Rusty's going to be working, I'm going to be working, I'm gonna be momming, you know? Mm-hmm. Hmm. Uh, very little school for ev.

Lots of time with indie. So just kind of getting proactive, again about setting up support and some help with the girls and also, Creating better [00:15:00] boundaries and compartmentalization for myself with work and, and remembering Every Monday, you know, I'm like, gosh, so much, so much to do. Mm-hmm. But then by, usually by Thursday, I'm like, okay, I, I've got it.

So just keeping my head together on Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, when all the work is there. And I, I think I might have shared this, but I can't remember, I worked with my therapist on like setting up just better. Rhythms for my week in terms of like my to-do list. Mm-hmm. So I used to do like one big to-do list for the week and now I'm breaking it up by day.

And if I finish everything on the Monday list, I can tap into Tuesday if I want to, or yesterday Rusty and I, so we have a gal from the Jam, her name's Katie, she's amazing. I think I shared this too, but she's been coming over on, typically on Wednesdays when Evie gets home from forest school and she, we put Indiana stroller and she walks both girls to Jiujitsu, which is just on the road, takes uh, Evie to class and hangs with.

Indy wall, Evie does her thing and then there's a playground just down the road from there. So then she takes him to the playground and then come, brings them, walks back at five [00:16:00] and we have dinner. And so Rusty and I, like I yesterday, used a little bit of that time to work and then, Ska had some, uh, long overdue alone time and that's probably also, I have a lighter mood.

And then, you know, and then we just like watched a little bit of Ted Lasso and it was so lovely where like, I, you know, I had checked everything off my Wednesday to-do list and I, I was about to tap into Thursday and I was like, no, I'm just gonna. Enjoy this time with Rusty and eat some cottage cheese, ice cream and just chill.

So, yeah. So it was, it's, it's good. I feel like I'm, I'm not perfect. I still have days where I feel super overwhelmed. Mondays are always, especially like this past Monday, I came out of the weekend with such a full cup and then it was like, Ooh, it's Monday. You know? And I, and I got like, the weather was incredible and I had plans to take the girls back out to the beach on Monday afternoon.

We were all exhausted from the sun and the weekend. Mm-hmm. And so like my. Engram self had to like recalibrate and be like, okay, it's gonna be like, it's gonna be a Monday. We'll play in the sprinklers in the front yard. I don't have to like plan a big to-do an event and like [00:17:00] pack a dinner and go to the, go to the beach today.

We can just be, and that's okay. So anyways, that's, yeah, that's the latest, definitely lighter, definitely. Excuse me, snotty, uh, full cup and figuring it out one day at a time. So it's funny cuz I know we're gonna talk a little bit about manifestation, but. Like I had this plan that got turned on, its head reassessed, re manifested, that got turned on its head.

Mm-hmm. And now it's inter interesting to see how things are coming full circle. And there's like little bits of both of those separate manifestation like I. Plans or attempts that are coming together to, I think what we actually need. You know what, what you can manifest and manifest, but ultimately, like you, you can't control.

And I think that manifestation requires a bit of surrender, so I'm sure we'll get into that. But before we do, what's the latest over there? Yeah, we, I mean, things are, nothing, nothing big. I'm trying to think. We had. A big Mother's Day weekend planned. So we had, [00:18:00] okay, well let me even think back. What did we have?

We had, bar was supposed to have a tournament all weekend and then I was supposed to go camping with Cammie's Girl Scout troop. For a Mother's Day weekend. And then, gosh, we had some other stuff too, and I can't even remember what it was, which, oops, sorry if it was important, but we had, we just had a lot of moving parts for Mother's Day, and then we were gonna do like a, a dinner for my brother-in-law's house for basically Tim's spa.

And, I mean, and for me, but it's, it was all like him and his brothers, like kind of celebrating his mom. So we had all this stuff planned and then, It was like supposed to be this like torrential weather and it, there was like, it was, it was not great weather. Like there was a, a night or two where it was like rainy, rainy, rainy.

So everything got canceled. Oh, there was supposed to be a birthday party. Yeah, it was a birthday party as well. But everything got canceled because it was supposed to be this like [00:19:00] tsunami. And so the soccers tournament got canceled, the birthday party got canceled, this camping trip got canceled, and honestly as an Enneagram nine, like canceled plans.

I know it just sounds, so, this might sound terrible to some people, but like I love. Canceled plans. I just love it. I love being like, ah, one, one less thing on my plate. You know, obviously like there's different times where that's not ideal or whatever. We have like, you know, really solid plans to do something, but these were a lot of things that just we're gonna be great, but like, we're gonna add to, to the stress of like the weekend a little bit.

And so, It ended up being wonderful Saturday. We just like chilled and like hung out and, you know, cleaned and, you know, did some things that like we weren't gonna get a chance to do because of all the plants that we had. And then Sunday, Tim was like, what do you wanna do? Like, do you wanna go somewhere and do something?

[00:20:00] Like, you know what, what's, what do you wanna do for Mother's Day? And I was like, honestly, I just want to stay in my pajamas for as long as possible and read and like literally do nothing. That is my dream. That's like literally my dream. And I know a lot of people do not understand that, but as Jess and my Enneagram nine ness, I was just like, this is my dream.

And so they woke me up, they let me sleep in, they woke me up. They brought me coffee from the coffee place down the street. Which is like my favorite place. They got, got me flowers and then they, I, Tim was like, do you want like me to get you? Like to go out to eat or what? What you wanted me to bring something home?

And I was like, honestly, I just want like you to make me like a proper full breakfast, like bacon and eggs and toast and all of that. And so he did. He like made me just a delightful breakfast and they brought it to me in bed. So I got to just read my book. No one bothered me. And [00:21:00] the kids were so cute.

They were just lovely. Like just. Made me cards and gave me trinkets. You know, it's funny cuz it's like, bear is a soccer card collector. He's, he collects these cards, he's obsessed with them. And to, to me, he gifted me some of his favorites. And to me I'm like, oh, this is great. But when I released that back and thought about it, I was like, these are like his favorite cards.

He's like giving them to me. This is huge for a nine, almost 10 year old boy. And then Camie, the last time her cousin was here. My niece, they took all these like pictures around, like they like got dressed up, not dressed up, but like they looked nice. They put on some beauty counter makeup and like they asked me if I could like walk them around the neighborhood so they could take Polaroids of each other at like random spot, like, like hand on a tree.

Model poses. It was the most hilarious thing I've ever seen, but at the time, I have the most vivid memory of doing the exact same thing in my [00:22:00] neighborhood with a friend at that age. That's so wild. I'm brought right back. I know. It's just like typical kid behavior this age. It's so great. Yeah, and at the time I'm walking around, I'm like, literally, Laughing on the, like trying not to let them see, but just like tickled to death because my niece Maddie, who's she just turned 11, she would like direct Camie to be like, okay, now look, look out, like look away, and like turn, kind of like turn your head down.

It was like all this just hysterical, like modeling. Anyways, it turned out that tho those pictures. They were doing like a Mother's Day like gift for me and my sister, and so Cammy gave me those Polaroids, which I'll treasure forever. It was just great. It was really relaxed. I read a whole book. We chilled, Tim baked me this like card mom sour cream pound cake that I was just like, this is what I want.

And then we went over to my mother-in-law's and had. Caritas and just like a whole big spread [00:23:00] ceviche and my brother, my brothers-in-law are great cooks and so we just like enjoyed that and had a good time. Hey there friends. Pausing this episode to share a bit about our wonderful friend Brianna White, a fantastic real estate agent based in Bend, Oregon.

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And I'm like, no, I really, really, really don't. So the older I get, or I guess just the more in touch with myself I get, the more I realize it's like I really just need a few simple things and. I'm, I'm a happy, happy camper. So Mother's Day was great. The, this is the last, next week is our last week of school, and so things are a bit hectic just in general because it's like we still have soccer going on.

Camie was in a play two weeks ago for school Bears in a play tonight. There's like a bunch of like end of year school stuff like going on a field trip and then. Just like teacher appreciation week. And so [00:26:00] lots of like things happening, but you were talking and I just realized like, I kinda feel like this happens every year where I'm like, oh, summer is coming.

And then I, it's here and then I have like no quote unquote plan. And so I think I'm gonna sit down a little bit like the end of this weekend, next week and just kind of like, think about what I want our summer to look like cuz we don't have any big travel plans this, this summer we're gonna join. Rejoin our pool.

We, we are part of this like neighborhood pool every, every year and we, and we like literally have to be, or else we're gonna just melt away in the Texas summer. So I know we'll do a lot of pool time bear's going to a camp, but with some friends. And Camille is like the opposite and like does not wanna do any camp.

She's like my kiddo, where it's like, She, it's just, it's not fun for her to like go around people that she doesn't know for like a short period of time. It's not her jam, so I'm sure she would have fun eventually, but it takes her [00:27:00] like several days to get comfortable and then by the time she gets comfortable, the campus over.

And so it's just like a series of anxieties for her? I think so. I don't know what we'll do, but Bear is like the opposite. He's like, I wanna do more camps, more soccer camps and all that stuff. So, I'll probably get him in a few camps, but overall, I think it's just gonna be really low key. We've got, you know, there's a Beauty Counter event in August, but other than that, nothing big planned.

So I'll sit down and kind of work through, through some of that on our end. And yeah, this weekend actually the kids are gonna be with. Our best friends, they're gonna go, go on a little like two day trip. And so Tim and I keep talking about like, what are we gonna do? What are we gonna do when they're gone?

I'm like, I like literally don't know. So if anyone, well, I guess no one's gonna hear this by the time this episode's, by the time the episode goes live, this will already have happened. But Laura, what should we do? What should we do with our, our time with no kids? [00:28:00] If you're still there. Well, I was very clear what you wanna do.

I, I could picture you just sit sitting at home making a mocktail, enjoying your yard. I know, but, and I, but what would I do? Yeah. What would you do? I feel like, I feel like there needs to be a compromise because at the same time, like I know I would wanna do nothing, but like, I can also do nothing mm-hmm.

When the kids are here. So it's like, Yeah. I want it to be kind of special. Different. It's different. Well, I guess my kids are very different ages. Yes. I can't do nothing when they're here. Right. When Lindsay's around. Yes. I would a whole day. Tell me, remind me how long, I mean, they're gonna be gone Friday afternoon and then we're gonna go pick 'em up on Sunday afternoon.

Okay. So I'm gonna just go Saturday for a whole day. Okay. I would wake up. Okay. I would sleep a little later knowing that I could do my morning stuff without being interrupted. I would have really, really good morning sex. Cause that's my favorite. And then make coffee and go for a walk with Rusty around just to probably around, probably like [00:29:00] walk downtown and walk along the water.

Obviously I'm doing this where we live. Mm-hmm. Come home, wow, there's indie, make a big old, delicious breakfast of some sort. Probably soured off Akasha, et cetera, et cetera. And then go for right now, if it was this season, I would wanna work in our garden a little bit and then go for. Probably like pack sandwiches and go for a hike.

Mm-hmm. And then come home or on the way home, stop at at the winery or tap, have a drink, and then come home and just, Make a good dinner. I'm really in a season right now. I would either like, there's like a very small handful of restaurants that are for me, like very worthwhile. I would go out to eat for sure.

Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. We'd go to Alderwood Bistro and sit outside and have a drink. Maybe I would skip Angela, have a drink, have a really nice meal together, sit, finish conversations, not chase a kid around and then come home. Put on Ted las though and go to bed early. Have some tea, go to bed early. I think that's what I would do.

So it's like outside time. A meal out sounds kids because mm-hmm. That's just, we're not in a [00:30:00] season where we can really do that in a way that's makes eating, spending the money worthwhile, you know? Mm-hmm. Yeah. So, nature time, good food, a single drink, good sex. And some sort of dessert that be my day. I love it.

And I was actually thinking about doing some sort of like hike situation. Cause I mean, it's already, it's hot here already, but like the last time the kids were out, we went, we hiked this trail that was like in town that we just found. And so I'm, I'm down for that. I'm down for like, A hike and then maybe like to the bookstore, cuz we both love like just perusing and finding a book like sipping coffee.

Like, I, I feel like we could do, I mean, I think I would definitely take parts of like your day and Mel meld them with a whole lot of nothing. So, thanks friend. Get some good ideas. I'm gonna check in with Tim and see what, what I love it, what it, what it leads to. But I have no idea how long we've been chatting for.

Do we, [00:31:00] do you wanna chi chat about manifestation or, I feel like kind of, I mean, we have, I can hear Indy obviously. Okay. And then I think we're, we're rounding out, it's gonna be a shorter episode today for a number of reasons, mainly that we're dinosaurs. But we did get a question about manifestation. I feel like I kind of touched on it.

Like I think what I, if I'm gonna, we could talk more. I'm sure it'll come up again. I like the way that it weaves into conversations depending on what season of life we're in. Mm-hmm. I think my biggest takeaway from the past few months is that you can. I don't see manifestation as like, think something into the universe and then like throw your hands up, kind of like, Jesus, take the wheel.

Mm-hmm. Or universe take the wheel or whatever it is. It's like, for me it's like manifestation requires consistent effort and energy and check-ins. So I, you know, two months ago I had this idea of what I wanted and it was like a specific work path for me. And, and that shifted based on conversations, communication, checking in with our needs, my needs, what I actually want.

And that shifted and [00:32:00] then it all shifted again because of circumstances entirely out of our control with Rusty's surgery. Which then was a catalyst for us to, again, have more conversations, lean more deeply into surrender. Mm-hmm. While also continuing to stay in touch with each other and communicate our needs and our desires and our wants, and then work towards those goals.

And then now we're coming full circle, you know? And a lot of those original manifestations are coming to light, but it just took a journey that wasn't like a direct shot. And so I think what it comes down to, cause I did get a question, if you're wondering why we're even talking about this, about like how do I manifest things in my life?

And what it comes down to is this symbiotic or combination of surrender and action. Of like understanding that I can't control everything and I'm a controlling person by nature. I try like, I like to ha be in control. And so it's been, so motherhood in general has been really good for my manifestation outcomes.

So surrendering to, and when I say that, I mean like I can't control everything, so the things that I can't [00:33:00] control, surrendering there, taking time, again, coming back to that word for my, for the year is like in the first quarter especially, but pausing, consuming, getting curious, like taking in the situation.

From a, a place of pause and then communicating both with myself and my partner and our kids and my therapists and my friends to then like really figured out what, what do I want given the current circumstances. And then taking action, you know, having conversations with my boss, seeing where their space really working towards like.

Filling a need with my work with CrossFit, and also like with my audience filling a need or a void that maybe what do people actually want versus just like spinning wheels. And I think that's kind of a big differentiation is like, Tuning into needs, both my own and who, whoever else, like my, my boss, my community, my kids, my husband, and versus just like doing what I, what I think or what I want, you know?

Mm-hmm. Does that make sense? Yeah. I'm [00:34:00] distracted by the crying baby. No, that makes sense. And we have like, I'm watching it count, so we had to get, we're recording on Zoom. We only get a 40 minutes, so we've got like eight minutes left. But I wanna say, like, I, I agree with all of that. Like, I, I think there's, I, I think there's lots of wisdom in there and lots of things.

I think then when I think about manifestation, there's a couple things that come to mind. I, number one, I feel like. Manifestation what you, first of all, you have to know yourself. You have to be in tune with, like, what do you, what do you actually want? And I think that's a big step for a lot of people is like, they don't, it's, it's bananas, but like a lot of people don't actually think about what they want their life to look like.

It's kind of like showing up and just doing the thing over and over and over again. So I think step one is just being in touch with like what you want slash need, what your family wants slash need slash needs. And then for us, you know, I think as Christians it's not like I, like, I, I do [00:35:00] think of pr, certain practices as manifestation, but a lot of the times there's a lot of overlap between, for me, with manifestation and prayer and it's like, it's like very, they're just intertwined, you know?

It's like for me, I spend a lot of time in the morning, like in prayer and a lot of that is, Is exactly what you're talking about. It's like, you know, God, I, I want, I want this, I need this, you know, this would be so great. And at the same time, like surrendering, like to, like ultimately God's will in my, in my viewpoint, whether that's, whether you agree like you're praying to God or you're a, you're asking God, or you're asking the universe, whatever that is to you.

Like, it's, it's, it's all intertwined for me in that sense. And so I. That's what it looks like for, for me. And a lot of times it's journaling. And in that journaling there's a lot of like prayer that I am, you know, it's just a conversation. It's a conversation between [00:36:00] me and God. And if, if that's not your thing, and maybe it's a conversation between you and the universe, it's a lot of like, no, it's a lot of the same ideas, just in a different fa rooted in something slightly different.

You know what I mean? So that's kind of like my experience with manifestation and a lot of like imagining. For me, it's like just imagining myself in the circumstances that I would like to create. So it's like kind of future self. Future self journaling. I've done that a lot before, and that's been really powerful just to kind of create these scenes and scenarios in my mind in which I have these things that I am hopeful for.

And it's like looking back, it's like, wow, I, a lot of that stuff I have now. And so there's like, there's just parts of it. It's like the imagining, the asking, the surrendering. And then I think the reflection for me is also really important because I don't often do that. Like looking back and being like, Those things that I manifested or prayed for, they actually [00:37:00] happened.

So that's a powerful, I, I think there's just like some parts of it that we sometimes skip over or leave out that I think are just integral to that whole process. So anyways, that's my ramble about manifestation. I would love to hear other people's feedback and thoughts and their experiences. And if you're listening and you wanna share, please reach out.

We'd love to hear more. Yes, please. And I'm sure, like I said, we'll tackle this more as things progress. And I like trickling it in versus like, cuz I, I would assume you'd agree, like, what about like a manifestation expert? I don't even know if that exists, to be honest. There are people who have courses and like they've made their life around it.

But I just, I think it's gonna look different for everyone. Mm-hmm. You know, I can't tell you how to manifest in your life. I can just tell you what's worked for me. And I feel like that's been, gosh, we're going on six years of this podcast. Mm-hmm. And that's been a, mm-hmm. That's been one thing that's been very consistent is that, Overall, like we are not ever going to tell you what to do.

We're just gonna share our experiences. So, totally. I got this little one in my [00:38:00] arms now. Oh, she just having some, some feels. Some feels. I know you'd like some milky, huh? She's saying milk. You wanna say hello? No, she does not wanna say hello. Just so y'all know, she was not in there just screaming on her own.

She was with very much in being loved on by Rusty, but also very much just wanting milk, which she cannot provide. Yeah, we can do a lot of things, but not unfortunately. Oh, my gracious. All right, friend. Well everyone, thanks for tuning in for, it's kind of like it was, I feel like we were all over the place, but you know what, sometimes those tend to be the best episode, so I, I was.

It's good for me. Hopefully it was good for everyone else. All right, Brent, so we'll talk soon to see you later. All right, love you. Bye bye. I dunno what to say. Thanks for listening to our podcast. See you next time. Thanks for listening to our podcast. See you next time. Bye. Hi.[00:39:00]